"I don't regret the things I have done. I just regret the things I didn't do when I had the chance"
They say no regrets and I try not to regret anything. I really do. I try to view things as lessons and then proceed to connect the dots. Why did that happen? Why did that have to happen to get me to where I am now? Linking things helps me to rationalise I guess... helps me to come to terms with the shitty stuff that happens especially. One door closes and all that...
Six degrees of separation is the idea that all people are six, or fewer, social connections away from each other. As a result, a chain of "a friend of a friend" statements can be made to connect any two people in a maximum of six steps. What if this is true of life experiences also? Six steps or less you can trace back to a moment that connected you to this one. Confused? Ok, let me give you an example...
In 2012 I dated M who lived in Manchester. Back then, I did very little travelling alone. I had the package holidays to Greece every year and weekends away with my partner at the time but apart from that, nothing. Seriously, my world was the size of a pin head. Dating M saw me getting on a train to Manchester and back every weekend. for a year. After we broke up, part of my job was to travel to Manchester every week for work... would I have volunteered for it if I hadn't had already had the experience? Absolutely not!
After that, the sky was the limit! Literally! I took my first trip to America, alone, to meet old friends for the first time. Would I have done that without having to work in an office with a load of strangers and spend the next 4 months of life with them? Fuck no! All those experiences were lessons to teach me how to get to the next step. Call it destiny. Call it fate. I do believe there are always connections in life... whether its six steps or not. Maybe its just human nature to find patterns in things. Like Pareidolia... finding faces in every day objects or Rorschach inkblot, a test to interpret a person’s supposed hidden emotions by finding an image in the ink blot. In theory, the patient projects their innermost thoughts onto the otherwise random image so can this be applied to patterns? I read once that if you constantly find patterns in life, youre a problem solver. I would agree with that assessment about me.
So here we are, lessons not regrets... then suddenly something happens or someone walks into your life that turns everything upside down.
P.S I dont remember writing this... but it was in my drafts so I thought Id post it anyways.
They say no regrets and I try not to regret anything. I really do. I try to view things as lessons and then proceed to connect the dots. Why did that happen? Why did that have to happen to get me to where I am now? Linking things helps me to rationalise I guess... helps me to come to terms with the shitty stuff that happens especially. One door closes and all that...
Six degrees of separation is the idea that all people are six, or fewer, social connections away from each other. As a result, a chain of "a friend of a friend" statements can be made to connect any two people in a maximum of six steps. What if this is true of life experiences also? Six steps or less you can trace back to a moment that connected you to this one. Confused? Ok, let me give you an example...
In 2012 I dated M who lived in Manchester. Back then, I did very little travelling alone. I had the package holidays to Greece every year and weekends away with my partner at the time but apart from that, nothing. Seriously, my world was the size of a pin head. Dating M saw me getting on a train to Manchester and back every weekend. for a year. After we broke up, part of my job was to travel to Manchester every week for work... would I have volunteered for it if I hadn't had already had the experience? Absolutely not!
After that, the sky was the limit! Literally! I took my first trip to America, alone, to meet old friends for the first time. Would I have done that without having to work in an office with a load of strangers and spend the next 4 months of life with them? Fuck no! All those experiences were lessons to teach me how to get to the next step. Call it destiny. Call it fate. I do believe there are always connections in life... whether its six steps or not. Maybe its just human nature to find patterns in things. Like Pareidolia... finding faces in every day objects or Rorschach inkblot, a test to interpret a person’s supposed hidden emotions by finding an image in the ink blot. In theory, the patient projects their innermost thoughts onto the otherwise random image so can this be applied to patterns? I read once that if you constantly find patterns in life, youre a problem solver. I would agree with that assessment about me.
So here we are, lessons not regrets... then suddenly something happens or someone walks into your life that turns everything upside down.
P.S I dont remember writing this... but it was in my drafts so I thought Id post it anyways.
